Should They Know?
Do Teens Have Privacy When it comes to Abortion?
Author:
Maria Orozco
Linda Gonzalez clearly remembers the day she and her
partner walked back to his house, holding each other.
She told him she was pregnant, and he held her even
closer. It was a dream come true for them, but
unfortunately it happened sooner than expected. A few
weeks later, Linda had an abortion. Her parents never
found out.
In California, it is legal to have an abortion without
parental consent. But in thirty other states,
teenagers require parental consent in order to have an
abortion. The Family Code provisions law, which grants
minors confidential access to all pregnancy-related
care such as contraception, abortion, and counseling
for sexual assault, has caused a great deal of
uneasiness among many parents and school districts.
Just recently in Scotts Valley, a group of parents
along with the Capital Resource Institute, a pro-
family advocacy group, attempted to override this law.
They strongly believe parents should be notified prior
to their child being released for such sensitive
services.
Lynn McKibbin, the Maternal, Child and Adolescent
Health Director in Santa Cruz County, thinks there is
a motive behind these actions. “I personally think
their main concern is abortion,” she said. “They are
not opposed to any other sensitive services granted to
teens by this law, except abortion.” The Family Code
provisions law, which grants teens the right to
sensitive services such as abortion without parents’
approval, has been accepted in California, New York,
Washington, Oregon, and Connecticut; while it remains
illegal in thirty other states. To abolish this law
would be detrimental to women, McKibbin
believes. “What I know law to say, is that minors can
sign their own consent for sensitive services, such as
abortion and mental health care,” she said. “If such
law is restricted, it would be like depriving women of
their freedom.”
McKibbin believes the reason many teenagers choose to
have an abortion without notifying their parents is
because of a lack of communication between child and
parent. Fear, embarrassment, rebellion, and “it’s none
of your business,” are among the many reasons a child
might not communicate with a parent. “I encourage
parents to talk to their child, whether they had an
abortion, if they are planning on having an abortion,
or even before they become sexually active,” McKibbin
said. “This is where communication has to happen, and
it’s a great opportunity for the child-and-parent
relationship to grow.” McKibbin emphasizes that
becoming upset does not help a teen who has had an
abortion. It often makes the matter worse. “Sit your
child down, feed him some dinner, and express your
concern,” McKibbin said. “Talk to them, don’t scream.”
To many teen-agers, abortion is a very stressful,
moral struggle. When a teen girl becomes pregnant, she
may question her maturity to raise a child and fear
her parents’ reaction to her pregnancy and decision to
get an abortion. She might also fear the loss of trust
and respect her parents might have.
Gonzalez, a teenager from Watsonville, believes that
abortion is a very private issue. “Teenagers should be
given the right to have an abortion without the
notification of parents,” she said. “Sometimes parents
can be very critical and close-minded.” However,
having an abortion wasn’t the only concern Gonzalez
dealt with then. The fear of what her parents might
think terrified her. “The fact that I knew there was a
chance my parents would find out about my abortion not
only worried me but it terrified me,” she said. “I was
afraid of the disappointment I would be to my parents,
and feared their rejection.” Gonzalez comes from a
Catholic family, where sex before marriage is
considered immoral.
Many teenagers are not ready for the responsibility of
having a child. Teenage girls may consider abortion a
relief, since they will not have to sacrifice their
social lives, future careers, or social future goals.
Katie Mezias, another teenager from Watsonville, feels
that an unwanted pregnancy can do all these. “Abortion
is like a blessing to many teen-agers like me,
especially when parents are not notified,” Mezias
said. “Teenagers who choose to have a baby ruin their
social and career lives.” Mezias is among those
teenagers that strongly believes abortion with
parents’ approval adds more frustration and stress to
the issue. “If parents find out about your abortion,
all they do is scream at you, judge you for your
decision, and reject you,” Mezias said.
Teenagers who choose to have an abortion may not be
certain about the process and the side effects of the
procedure. In some cases adolescents are so concerned
about terminating their pregnancies that they forget
to ask themselves what risks they are taking. In
Gonzalez’s case, for example, she didn’t know the
process of having an abortion and feared the side
effects. “I wasn’t ready emotionally, mentally, and
economically to be a mother,” she said. “I didn’t want
to raise a child in the conditions I was living in
then. I have to admit I was really scared, I didn’t
know what I was getting myself into.” For Linda,
having an abortion was a very hard experience. Not
only getting rid of her baby, but the side effects
that came after. “They were awful. I had heavy vaginal
bleeding and I was constantly nauseous,” she
explained.
Even though one out of four pregnancies ends in
abortion, several abortion questions still remain
untouched. Rebecca Siler, a health educator at
Westside Planned Parenthood Clinic, explained what an
abortion is. “An abortion is the termination of a
pregnancy up to fourteen weeks, and the process can be
either a surgical or non-surgical process,” she
said. “An abortion through a non-surgical process
consists of medication, which if taken daily can
induce the miscarriage.” When I asked what we could do
to prevent an abortion, she clearly stated, “Well, to
prevent an abortion, first you need to prevent a
pregnancy. You can do this by using contraception,
which includes every method of birth control such as
condoms and the birth control pill.” However, she
clearly stated that abstinence is the number one way
to prevent a pregnancy, transmitted diseases, and in
this case, abortion.