Pain, Blood, HurtÖ.Love?
The truth about abusive relationships
Sitting on the floor in fear, blood begins to
slowly fall down her face. It never hurt like this
before. It wasnít supposed to be like this. She knows
she loves him. Then why does he treat her this way?
Did she do something wrong? Why canít he accept her
the way she is? Does he mean to hurt her?
She looks at her reflection in the mirror, and sees a
different person now. This wasnít how it was supposed
to end up. They were supposed to have a fairytale
ending together where Cinderella meets her Prince.
What can she do now? Was it her fault?
So, you met a cute boy or girl at school, and you
started dating. But what if itís not as fun anymore?
What if they are always telling you what to do, and
sometimes even hitting or pushing you when they get
mad or when you fight? Lots of people can be in
abusive relationships and not even know it.
What is an abusive relationship, or intimate partner
violence, anyways? Relationships are abusive if you
are physically getting hurt, like getting punched or
slapped or pushed around. Relationships can also be
abusive if your boyfriend or girlfriend is always
yelling at you, making you feel bad about yourself,
calling you names, or not letting you do things that
make you happy, like hang out with your friends or
play your favorite sport, or be friends with other
girls or boys.
So, why are people violent? People can be violent to
be in control of a relationship. People may feel
unsafe or have severe problems in their life. Some
people have alcohol or drug problems, which will cause
them to be violent. People use violence because they
might feel jealous. A lot of relationships suffer from
jealousy because they feel their partner is cheating
on them. These thoughts may lead to fights between
them or someone else. Many people are very violent
because all their life, they have suffered from
violence in their own house.
Violence in relationships has a lot of serious
consequences. Domestic violence in a relationship can
lead to arguments and divorce. Violence can affect a
human being internally and externally. If a woman is
pregnant while going through an unhealthy
relationship, she can lose the baby if she gets
abused. Other damages can be bruises or cuts. If it
gets to a point where police are called, people can be
taken to jail or put on probation.
So why donít you just leave the relationship?
Sometimes people donít leave because they are afraid
of being alone and they donít think that they are able
to get anyone else. Another reason might be
intimidation, and threatening to hurt you or kill you
if you leave.
Domestic violence is somewhat common in the usual
American household. Violence in a family can be caused
by many issues, such as drugs and alcohol. Men and
women that grow up with violence in their household
are more likely to be in an unhealthy relationship. If
you ask me, thatís a bunch of B.S. In my family we had
domestic violence here and there, it just encouraged
me not to become the evil person I had seen and dealt
with my whole life. In my opinion every man has a
decision to make. I mean if your dad made your mom
suffer, would you want your wife to suffer just like
your mom did?
She gets up from the floor and brushes off the
dust. She knows he canít do this. He has no right. He
is harming her body and her mind, and she wonít stand
for it. She grabs her keys, opens the door, and
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