I Like Little Girls...
They Make Me Feel So Big!
One day after school recently, I happily plopped down
on my couch to watch a rerun of one of my favorite
shows, Roseanne. It was the episode where Roseanne
finds out that her 17 year-old daughter Becky is
dating a guy named Mark, who is 21.
Roseanne and her husband forbid Becky to see Mark. But
in later episodes, they decide that itís ok for the
two to date, even though Mark is so much older. That
episode first aired around the early nineties, and
older guys dating much younger girls is more popular
now than ever before.
Did you know that if these kinds of relationships are
sexual, it is considered statutory rape, even if both
partners agree to it?
Nowadays, it seems that this type of relationship
doesnít even faze parents. And itís not just men who
prefer the younger generation, women want their men
young and ripe for the picking, too.
So, the question on the table is, why is this
older/younger relationship so popular? Letís take a
look at the pros and cons of this type of relationship.
Dating someone older is cool. They have a job, a car,
cool friends and they can get you into the best
parties. They make you feel special. You get to hang
out with older people and experience new things.
This kind of relationship sounds pretty good, right?
But explore the downside before you make any decisions.
Did you ever stop and think about why someone who is
so much older wants to go out with somebody younger?
For example, when you graduate high school, do you
want to be in a relationship where you have the same
dating responsibilities as a high school student, like
dances, proms and graduations?
Well, older guys may like to go out with younger girls
because they can control them easier. Then the
relationship isnít equal.
And girls, think about this: According to an article
last year in the Boston Herald, approximately 80,000
teen pregnancies nationwide were due to young girls
dating guys at least three years older than themselves.
And that article continues: ďResearch shows that young
girls involved with adult men are more likely to drop
out of school, suffer from low self-esteem, become
depressed, engage in criminal behavior and become
addicted to drugs or alcohol. And, most sadly, when
their psychological wounds do not heal, they are
likely to allow their children to become victims of
the same kind of abuse.Ē Sounds like fun, huh?
Bottom line: if you get into a relationship where your
partner is older, realize that itís illegal. Older
people can take the heat if they introduce sex, alcohol
or drugs to minors. And that kind of relationship may
not be as cool as you think.